The Manhood Experience Part One: Six experiential training courses for men and young men

By Fine, Nic

Book Id: WPLBN0100750024
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Reproduction Date: 7/1/2017

Title:	The Manhood Experience Part One: Six experiential training courses for men and young men
Author:	Fine, Nic
Volume:
Language:	English
Subject:	Non Fiction, Psychology, men, youth, training young men, exploring masculinity, mentoring, experiential training, leadership, social change
Collections:	Authors Community, Psychology
Historic Publication Date:	2017
Publisher:	The Hearts of Men Institute

Member Page:	Gill Kerchhoff
Citation APA MLA Chicago Fineitor, N. (Ed.). (2017). The Manhood Experience Part One. Retrieved from http://gutenberg.cc/

Description
The training proper begins with ‘Reclaiming Manhood’, followed by the outdoor residential component, ‘The Wild at Heart Adventure’. The training then continues with three courses back in the host community. This manual is a resource for facilitators and for those working with men and boys, to support them in exploring meaningful ways to build capacity and to enhance their personal development by promoting a positive sense of masculinity, as well as to create a safe space for learning and sharing.

Summary
Hearts of Men have been running community-based mentoring programmes, bringing older and younger men together in support circles in the Western Cape from 2001-2021. The approach and the materials included in this manual have been tried and tested in many different communities, working with diverse groups of men/young men, aged between 15 and 70 years. Six experiential training courses for men and young men are covered in Parts One and Two of this manual. For more background information on Hearts of Men, and a detailed description of our work, please refer to our book In the Hearts of Men (published in 2015). Details are given at the end of this manual.

Excerpt
SETTING THE SCENE LET THE JOURNEY BEGIN At the heart of our understanding of the context in which we work is a belief that South Africa is a multiply wounded nation, carrying the emotional weight of the scarring of individuals, families, cultures and communities by violent forms of colonization and apartheid. Over generations the physical and psychological brutality of colonization and the racial hatred of the apartheid state were institutionalized in all the structures of South African society. This has created a scarring – an alienation, a reduced self-esteem, a ripping apart of families and communities, leaving human bonds fragile and dislocated. As a nation we have spent little time, resources and effort on understanding how the past is impacting on the present levels of violence in our personal relationships with each other. The weight of the past is experienced in the breakdown of relationships, resulting in social epidemics such as drug addiction, domestic violence and xenophobia. We are often in denial about the ongoing impact this past trauma has on our daily lives. In our focus on creating the new South Africa, we have developed amnesia regarding the horrific impact of colonialism, exploitation and racism on our everyday social interactions, personal relationships, cohesiveness and culture.

Table of Contents
Welcome 5 The Context Setting the scene 6 Introduction to ‘The Manhood Experience’ Training Delivering this training 10 The Manhood Experience: six courses 11 Facilitator notes 11 Programme phases and processes 15 Disclaimer - an important notice 17 Course One: In the Heart of a Man Introduction 20 Session 1: Perceptions 21 Session 2: Interpretations 24 Session 3: Assumptions 27 Session 4: Manhood 31 Course Two: Reclaiming Manhood Session 1: Fixing it with your father 40 Session 2: Being a real father 46 Session 3: Treating women on equal terms 53 Session 4: Exploring the sacredness of sex 59 Session 5: Making real male friends 66 Session 6: Finding your niche 72 Session 7: Dealing with money 79 Session 8: Facing up to addictions 87 Session 9: Taking care of your health 94 Session 10: Developing your spiritual life 102 Session 11: Discovering your heart 108 Course Three: The Wild at Heart Adventure Introduction 116 Preparation, logistics and safety 116 Building a team 117 Roles and responsibilities 117 Risk management & evacuation procedures 121 Course description 126 Briefing 127 Debriefing 129 Important notice 130